might be beautiful. You might be built. You might love your body and
have the confidence to show it proudly…and that’s great. Seriously, I’m
happy for you (no sarcasm). In today’s fast-food, overindulged,
carbohydrate-addicted world, maintaining a hot figure is challenging, so
you get full marks for your efforts and workout regimen. But let’s get
real for a minute or two, shall we?
not kid ourselves. You can look in the mirror and feel proud of your
body. You can walk down the street and receive looks and compliments on
your beauty. That’s not the reason you’re on Instagram, and it certainly
isn’t the reason you’re posing half-Unclad. If you think that posting
these pics is how to be happy with yourself, think again!
in a lace bra and a G-string on Instagram doesn’t give the perception
that you are a “lingerie model,” it makes you look cheap, like the only
value you offer is your body. The psychology behind your behavior in
taking these nude pics is very straight-forward: you’re suffering from a
lack of self-esteem and are looking externally to make yourself feel
good about you. But you’re kidding yourself. It’s called self-esteem
because it emanates from the self.
while we’re talking, let’s make something crystal clear: what you’re
doing isn’t “modeling.” Victoria Secret models pose on a professional
photo set to sell lingerie and associated products for a company. In
short, they get paid for modeling. They don’t bare their pink parts
dancing to Usher under a fluorescent bathroom light, sporting a pouty
duckface with a Toy Story shower curtain as a backdrop. Models work.
What the hell are you doing? I’ll tell you: giving peeks of your Unclad
self away to random lurkers/stalkers/pedophiles, that’s what.
reality check: Any picture of a Unclad/half-Unclad woman will get LOTS
of views online. It doesn’t make you special, it makes you an adult film
star, but without the paycheck. Nothing wrong with posing nude for
kicks or paychecks, if that’s what you want to do. But please stop
fooling yourself into thinking that the “likes” and “shares” you get are
because they like you. They like the show you are giving them; they
don’t care who you are.
advice: If you want to be a model, DO IT! Put together a portfolio, pay
your dues, and follow your dream. Otherwise, you are shaking your stuff
for someone else’s cheap thrill, while pretending it boosts your
self-esteem as you get views on your pics. You can choose to be whatever
you want to be: a doctor, model, business woman, adult film star,
whatever you want. Just do it with some dignity. Don’t sell your
integrity and self-esteem for the price of an affirmative “click here if
you think my pink parts are pretty!” You will only attract the wrong
kind of guy that way, and you are selling out women everywhere