Why women cry during s*x: When
you imagine having s*x that you’re totally into, crying probably isn’t part of
But sometimes when you’re in
the middle of doing the deed, your emotions take over and you suddenly find
tears leaking out of your eyes. You might feel surprised depending on the
situation, but being overcome with feelings during the act is actually pretty
normal, even when you actively want to have s*x. Here, 7 women show as much by
sharing the reasons they’ve cried during s*x.
Some are heartbreaking while
others are incredibly sweet, but all of them prove that there’s absolutely
nothing wrong with getting emotional during that. Sometimes, you’ve just got to
let it out.
1. Because of confusing an*l
“I was having anal thing with
my boyfriend of two years. We were slightly tipsy after a few glasses of wine,
and it was only the second or third time we’d tried it.
A few minutes in, I burst into
tears, and not from pain. I started crying because I wasn’t sure if I
felt degraded or not, and if I did feel degraded, then I was actually
It was a strange feeling, and I
was shocked by my own tears. My boyfriend immediately wrapped me in his arms
and asked if I was OK. I said yes and started laughing, so he joined in.
Needless to say, the mood was somewhat ruined, but I can confirm there have
been no tears since.” —Thea C., 21
2. Because her partner cheated.
“One morning, a woman slid into
my Instagram DMs and told me she and my ‘boyfriend’—I use that term loosely—had
been sleeping together and dating each other for a couple months.
I didn’t sleep with him for
over a month after I found out, and the first time I did, I began to cry
shortly after we began.
I was thinking about him with
the other woman and the qualities she had that I didn’t. We broke up about a
week after that incident
The crying made me realize this guy hurt me to my core. I’d
wondered throughout our year-long courtship whether or not he really cared for
me. At the moment I started crying, I said to myself, ‘Nope he
doesn’t.’”—Talisha H., 28
4. Because of a surprise
“It was senior year of college,
and my then-boyfriend and I hadn’t talked about graduation at all. He was
walking me to a meeting I was attending, and all of a sudden he told me he
wasn’t sure if he loved me enough to date me forever.
I had no idea he had doubts,
and I started uncontrollably sobbing in the middle of the meeting. Later on, he
came over to my place and started kissing my bre@sts, clearly wanting to have
s3x, and I started crying again.
I knew we weren’t going to be
together, and I loved him so much. At some point, I stopped crying, and we
finished doing that thing. It’s OK now, though. I’m so not attracted to him,
I’d rather get intimate with a comforter.” —Monica T., 25
5. Because of physical pain and
“I suffer from v@g!nismus, a
condition where penetrative interc0urse is painful. I was having s*x with my
boyfriend and experiencing pain and discomfort when I started crying.
Not from the physical pain, but
from the complications and frustrations that came along with the experience
that was supposed to be magical and pleasant.
While my partner was
experiencing those very feelings, I was simultaneously conflicted, in pain, and
unhappy. I couldn’t help killing the mood with some tears. When he noticed, he
was alarmed and rushed to comfort me, trying his best to understand what it was
I was feeling. This, to me, felt most intimate of all.” —Sarah L., 23
6. Because it was really, truly
“A year after my ex and I
mutually broke up, we were having s*x. We did everything we used to do, but we
knew it would be the last time.
I broke up into tears. It was
pretty obvious from my side—I have always been touchy with emotional stuff. He
asked me for the reason behind my tears, but I was silent. He asked again, and
I kept on with my closed lips. He then understood my silence and broke into
tears himself.” —Anukriti
7. Because it was time to go
back to long-distance dating.
“My boyfriend and I are in a
long-distance relationship, and we had just gotten back home from our first
The vacation really cemented how head over heels I was for him,
and being together for over a week was like a dream.
When we landed in my Midwest city, we were going to spend one last
night together before he headed back to the West Coast and we wouldn’t see each
other for weeks.
As we had s3x, I was honestly overwhelmed by how much I loved him
and how much I didn’t want him to leave, so I started crying.
I tried to keep it subtle, but he realized. At first he was scared
he hurt me, but when I explained, he wiped my tears away and comforted me. Then
we continued on having amazing stuff. Swoon.” —Kimberly C